There are decisions that you have to make when you are going through a divorce. While you might not like the thought of having to work with your ex to come up with the terms of the divorce, this is one of the only ways that you can get the divorce over with as quickly as possible.
There are some pointers that you can think about when you are working with your ex on negotiations. Keeping these in mind might help you to remain sane during the process.
Keep the focus on your future
You might be tempted to focus on what you can get your hands on right now in the divorce settlement. Remember that not all of the assets that you have are without cost. Some assets, such as the marital home, can end up costing quite a bit of money over time. Make sure that you think about why you want the assets you are pushing for so that you can make sure they will help your future.
Budget for your income
Since you are going to rely on your own income, make sure that you think about this when you are working on the property division points. Having an accurate idea of what your budget looks like can help you to plan for what assets you can afford. You certainly don't need the property you get to end up costing you dearly in the future.
Separate the children from other matters
It is easy to try to handle child custody matters while you are dealing with the other aspects of divorce. Doing this could be disastrous. Child custody is a matter that must be handled on its own. Make sure that when you are coming up with the terms of the agreement that you aren't using your children as pawns to get what you want in other areas. You have to do what is right for the children without trying to sway things in your favor if your favor isn't truly what is in the child's best interests.
There might be times when your ex tries to anger you into giving into his or her wants. Make sure that you remain calm and keep your eyes on the prize -- the signed divorce decree. Once the divorce is finalized, you won't have to deal with your ex on any matters that aren't related to the children. This can be your motivation to get the negotiations over with quickly.